Tuesday, July 19, 2011

BOYS SUCK, DATING SUCKS,…..

Haha no, Im nor bitter... Im not "sparky" ;). It just seems like this one event gets brought up ALL the time. At the beginning of march I wrote all my missionaries and basically it was a huge rant. I went something like. " Dear Elder, Boys suck, dating sucks, good luck dating when you get home because it sucks!" HAHA now, I feel REALLY bad about it. My letters never have anything negative in them, so the letters I got back were frantic asking me if I was okay. Okay so I really do feel bad about it! Although I do feel like I had a right at that time.

Growing up my brothers were expected to open doors, give up their jacket, and be overall respectful to women of all ages. I thought this is what all boys did especial in the church.... I thought...

I know we all have out horrid dating experiences I just had a lot of them that month. I had a guy once we were in the car tell me I was too tall and that it wouldn't work out. We didnt get out of the parking lot, another guy when on our date said I was too tall, another that I was too big, then I had a guy that at the end of the date literally jumped on top of me ( perve ). Within those months i had a really good date. The kid opened the door for me, and was just genuine. I knew he wasnt going to try anything and was just overall respectful. So here is the questions.... what happened to chivalry? Its not that big of a hassle right?

1. Just open the door for her.
- I had a boyfriend that refused to open the door for me... because he didnt see the need. It was annoying. Its something so little, but shows character.

2. Dont gossip.
- Makes you think what hes going to say about you.

3. Dont try to suck on my face.
- What makes you think I want to kiss you back? Really?!? Its the first date!

4. Dont wait more than a week to ask her out again.
- the longer we wait the more ticked off we get haha.

5. Get over your problems.
- I dont want to know about your past or present porn, depression,suicidal,drug, or ex girl friend problems. To be honest the girl probably already knows... when you talk about it.. its SOOO awkward.... and really, nothing makes a girl creeped out more when you are talking about your porn problems. I understand its a big problem now... but it makes you want to cover yourself in a blanket and hide under the table.

6. If the girl is playing a " game " drop her.
-Guys complain of girls playing " games " I think it goes both ways... Im just blunt... haha

7. PAY
-Some girls say they feel bad. I totally dont. Haha i feel its the guys responsibility! Again... I had a boyfriend who made me pay for dinner... I guess there gets a certain point in a relationship where you can split things, but at the beginning its all you.

8. Not too much $$$
- Makes me feel awkward and bad if the food is expensive or event. Keep it simple. =) One date we painted rocks... really... how cool is that? I totally loved it! Plus I know a lot of girls really do like walks.


So no, not all boys suck. I have some amazing friends who treat me with respect even though they dont even have too! And I have been on 3 dates with guys who do the same.... BUT come on boys! Its not like one date really means anything. Just have fun, dont freak out, dont play games, and be a gent =)

I actually do enjoy dating. You get to meet new people and have fun! Its interesting how people are so different. Im not bitter, I just dont understand why jerks are out numbering gentlemen. Again... im not being sparky ;) haha. I REALLY do feel bad. More guys need to get off their bums and go on date ( cough cough....JOSH ) Although girls are MEAN these days! We girls need to do our part also, I totally understand... how about we just meet common ground? =) Haha this article was SO funny! Girls were freaking out haha. Lets just keep calm and carry on =)

http://www.usustatesman.com/column-to-the-single-scorned-men-of-logan-1.2533596?MMode=true

2 comments:

Mariam said...

I was just talking to a good friend about dating today. Now I know I'm going to sound old here, but things have changed in the last 12 years. Don't get me wrong, there alway were and always will be jerky guys and mean girls. However, I think social networking, cyber relationships and texting are partly to blame for the decline in relationships today.

I don't think boys and girls know how to appropriately communicate FACE TO FACE. You have no problem texting, or chatting with someone on-line, but in person it's a whole new ball game. There is no LOLing or "Like" button, you have to use real words, real emotions.

When you "say" something in a text or on-line, you don't see the hurt or joy in the other persons eyes. I think you become desensitized to human reaction.

Don't get me wrong, technology rocks, but it can't take the place of actual human contact.

LIZZY said...

Amen.